Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Dealing with Anger


by M. J. Joachim
Anger is an intrusive and difficult feeling to address. However, it’s not a reason to despair, because it is perfectly acceptable to scream and act like a crazy person when you’re angry.

Just not at anyone or anything…which includes people, pets and inanimate objects that will end up needing to be fixed or replaced.

So many proverbs, psalms and various words of wisdom tell us plainly – release your anger to feel better.

It’s true. I remember one doctor who told me I carry my anger in my back. All this time I thought my back gave me trouble from an old teenage injury. Funny how a little appropriate anger releasing makes the back feel better on tumultuous days.

Ever hear of tension headaches? How about sour tummies or irritable bowel syndrome? Yes, these are also affected by stuffing anger down, until you just can’t see straight anymore.

I’m not saying you’ll get rid of all your health problems. However, I do believe part of being healthy requires a proper state of mind, body and soul…balanced, centered and focused on a lot more positives than negatives in life.

That doesn’t mean there’s never a reason to get downright angry; however, problems can and often do occur when we hold that anger in, because there’s simply no proper way to release it correctly.

I mean, think about the victims of Jerry Sandusky, and other people who have been completely violated and “hushed” in the name of …

IN THE NAME OF WHAT????

Is there anything worth making a rape victim keep the peace, in the name of protecting the rapist????!!!!

For decades, those victims could do nothing. There was no justice, and if anyone ever has a right to be angry, it’s the one who’s been violated, only to be kept quiet for the sake of … well, like I said before, 

FOR THE SAKE OF WHAT????!!!!

They (his victims) knew the guy wouldn’t be stopped. There was nothing they could do to prevent him from hurting others. They had no support or help to deal with what had happened to them, and they had no way of preventing it from happening to those who followed them. Talk about guilt – this climbs completely off the radar charts, and you can bet it’s an explosive matter, to be sure!

It’s old news, I know…

But there are countless victims every day – people we don’t hear about, who live with the guilt, shame, anger and countless other emotions that go with being violated and/or abused. Most of them won’t be publicized…too many of them will find a way to move on and have as much of a normal life as possible.

Release the anger…let it out!
Punch the air in an empty field and scream!

Say all those horrible thoughts out loud, in the privacy of your own house, when no one else is home.

Scream louder than the ocean, when you’re at the beach and no one else is around.

Take that shovel in your back yard and dig – dig hard, dry land, slamming that shovel into the ground.

Run – as in, “Run, Forest run!” Run as far and hard as you need to – call a cab for a ride home, if necessary.

No one has to know, see or hear the poisons you’re disposing of…and once they’re gone, you don’t ever have to look at or feel them again.

Just don’t write them down….not even if you plan to burn them right away.

Don’t ever write them down. Anger is not something to dwell on and revisit. It’s something to release and get rid of, once and for all!

And remember, it's not a sin to be angry. Who or what gets caught in the crossfire when you're angry, now that's another story entirely. 

That’s all for now, good people J
Until next time, I wish you peace!

M. J.

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